The best advice I have received to date on being a mom, especially with more than one kid, was to integrate babywearing into our life. When my first child was born, I tried it a few times, but didn’t really get that into it. My son didn’t like being constrained by a carrier and the few times he did let me wear him, the tasks I needed to do (e.g., laundry and loading the dishwasher) didn’t really work out the way I’d hoped. At the time, it was easier just to put him in his crib or the pack & play and let him sleep there.
But with the second kid, everything’s different. The older child is already into everything and not having the ability to clone myself, babywearing became a necessity to getting anything done. I have several options, as a result of an overzealous gift registry with my first born coupled with my hoarding everything from the first kid in case I could find use for it with the second.
We took the boys to a Christmas event at a nearby train station, and although it was freezing outside, we managed to make it work with the Moby wrap (and a big floofy onesie that made the baby look like a stuffed bear). At holiday events with family, when the baby needed to nap but there was too much commotion, swaddling him in the wrap was a great option because he was warm and snuggly on my chest and would actually sleep pretty well. It also gave me free hands to deal with our older son, which was super helpful.
Babywearing, especially in the Moby wrap, is fantastic in the first few weeks before he was strong enough to hold his own head up. Now that he’s a little older, we’ve done the forward facing Baby Bjorn as well, with a lot of success. I’m all about finding workable solutions as I acknowledge I’m living the hardest year of my life and I need all the help I can get.